Confronting people with chronic diseases of the mouth:5 VIP Steps
- Consider timing, location and privacy
- Be specific with facts
- State your feelings
- Express your needs
- Ask for their response
If you stick to facts about the situation, and not your opinions, any
anger towards you will subside.
For example:
Avoid saying an opinion: "You talk too much."
Fact: "In one hour of talking, I talked just 3 minutes."
"I feel THAT is unfair. I would like to talk more next time. What do you
think?"
Some common ailments,
diseases of the mouth and tongue:
complaining
nagging
non-stop talking
not ever talking
monologues
not checking in with the people present
rambling
dumping toxic emotions
off topic
yelling
cold hearted
lying
gossip
slander
unable to accept silence during conversation
Time is valuable, like money. Stop people from
stealing your opportunity to talk.
Visualize a healthy conversation to be like a beach ball bouncing from person
to person. Pass the ball to the quiet ones. Let everyone join in the fun.
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